Monday, September 23, 2024

A candid discussion with Bill

Saturday morning at our breakfast date I had a honest & vulnerable discussion with Bill about Cancer. I asked him if I could share our discussion and he agreed.  What follows is our discussion in raw, honest words.



What went through your mind when you found out you might have cancer at that MRI appt? 

"I don't know what I didn't know yet, you were out of town & I was told it might be or it might not be. So I didn't know exactly yet and I had to wait. I was worried but not sure what I didn't know yet"


What went through your mind when you did finally know you had cancer?

"Fear & uncertainty at first. It's honestly cliche but in that moment I made a decision - it's how I'm wired. I face things head on. I could choose to be pissy & angry. OR I could continue to be positive and face this head on. I made a decision instantly in that moment that I was going to Fight and let God be God."


How has your cancer diagnosis affected you and our family?

"Me, Its made me more emotional & I feel like I'm on a roller coaster. As for the family - the kids don't openly talk about it. We have to pry things out of them. We've grown closer & stronger as a couple."


During this time what is most important to you?

"People. I've always valued relationship & it's always been a priority to me. But now spending time, being intentional. Putting my phone down more & living in the moment."


Anything else you want people to know?

"God is in control! And everyone has stuff but God is still on the throne.  Don't wait for something drastic like cancer to remind you of this. Ohh, I appreciate all the texts and calls. Please don't feel like you're bothering me. If I'm not doing well that day I might not respond but I will respond later. Remaining in contact with me through this important to me & gives me strength. Keep it up. And wear green on chemo days, send us your pictures of support."


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